# SiblingAbuse.ca > Shining a light on sibling abuse ## Posts - ["Brothers Fight. Sisters are Mean. It’s Normal."](https://siblingabuse.ca/brothers-fight-sisters-are-mean-its-normal/): … and Other Reasons Why Survivors of Sibling Aggression and Abuse Don’t Tell Their Stories Running. Hiding. Fighting back. Terrified. Angry. Invisible. Speaking out. Being ignored. Threatened into silence. Name-calling and teasing. Secrets. Sadness. Hoping I can stay at my friend’s after school. Hoping my toys aren’t destroyed again. Hoping they aren’t babysitting tonight. These are our stories. This is what it looks and feels like to get beaten up, put down, or whatever form it took – or still takes. And telling our stories is how people who haven’t lived it will learn that sibling abuse is real. That […] - [Sibling Abuse in Conference](https://siblingabuse.ca/blog-4-sibling-abuse-in-conference/): The research is growing and being shared In July 2024, I attended the Violence Prevention Research Conference organized by the University of New Hampshire’s Crimes Against Children Research Center. SAARA, Sibling Aggression and Abuse Research and Advocacy Initiative is an organization within that centre whose mission includes raising awareness, educating, providing training, building networks and creating systemic cultural change with respect to sibling aggression and abuse. They hosted three sessions on Sibling Aggression and Abuse. That’s why I went. Corinna Jenkins Tucker, Ph.D., CFLE and Tanya Rouleau Whitworth, Ph.D., along with David Finkelhor, PhD. make up the SAARA team; kudos […] - [PODCASTS: Vulnerability and Courage?!?](https://siblingabuse.ca/blog-3-podcasts-vulnerability-and-courage/): I’ve had the honour of being interviewed for two podcasts about sibling abuse. The first one was with Dr. Linda Baker, the former Director of CREVAWC, the Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children at Western University in London, Ontario, Canada. It was released many months ago, and I’ve yet to share it or link it to my website. Why? What’s taken me so long? Why is one part of me so open about being a survivor of sibling abuse, and another locked in old patterns, with shame and guilt holding their wrinkled, arthritic hands across […] - [UNROOTED: A Podcast About Sibling Abuse (coming one day) … Why “Unrooted”?!](https://siblingabuse.ca/blog-2-unrooted-a-podcast-about-sibling-abuse-why-unrooted/): I have always felt unrooted, though I didn’t really see it until recently. After many years of therapy, self-exploration, working at trying to connect with that deeper, truer “Self” inside – and moving more times than I can count – I’ve begun hearing that word rise from some deep, subconscious terrain – unrooted. It’s probably because I’m currently moving, again, and I am scared, uncertain about where I’ll be. In later years, many people choose to move back to where they grew up, to where their roots are. That’s certainly not my plan … and I realize in an instant: […] - [The Audacity!](https://siblingabuse.ca/blog-1-the-audacity/): “The AUDACITY!” That’s what I’m hearing these days. It’s the latest in a lifetime of criticism from one of the many voices in my head. I’m happy to say, they’ve diminished significantly, in frequency, tone, and weight. But every once in a while … I hear them … whispering to me. They’re subtle now, because I’m on to them. But things like significant change or big events will bring them back to life. In the last hours before SiblingAbuse.ca launches, I hear it. “Who do you think you are? Some expert?” “SiblingAbuse.ca sounds like an official organization, with lots of […] ## Pages - [Messages & Comments Board](https://siblingabuse.ca/messages/message-board/): Message / Comments Board No messages or comments yet. If you would like to send us a message or comment, please do so here: talk to us! - [Story Board](https://siblingabuse.ca/stories/story-board/): Story Board Here are your stories. Thank you for sharing, for joining the conversation, for inviting others to tell their stories too. This is where change can begin. One story at a time. ~ If you would like to share your story, please click the link below the stories. Learn Anew – Anonymous While the trauma of transitioning from the womb to this world we live in is quickly forgotten, we begin learning right away as we grow, primarily from our mother, father and siblings. I recall during my youth while growing up in my dysfunctional, immigrant family how my […] - [Broken Branches: The Play](https://siblingabuse.ca/broken-branches-the-play/): Broken Branches The Play Broken Branches Trailer About Broken Branches Siblings. They are our friends, our role models and rivals. They define who we are, perhaps more than our parents. We grow up together. They get inside our heads. What happens when we can’t get them out …? Rachel runs away with her daughter, arriving unexpectedly at her childhood home. Jade spends more nights in the college art studio than she does in her own bedroom. The sudden reappearance of Josh’s mother forces him to take a hard look at his life. Now, all three of them must confront the […] - [Broken Branches](https://siblingabuse.ca/brokenbranches/): Broken Branches Broken Branches: Brothers. Sisters. Survival. Broken Branches is a play that weaves together the stories of three survivors of sibling abuse. Rachel, Josh and Jade are now young adults, but the trauma of the emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse from a brother or sister still impacts their lives. Facebook Twitter Youtube While we see their pain – and the harm to themselves or others – we also see their humour, resilience, strength and hope as they come to understand and work through these experiences. Governor General’s Award-winning playwright Judith Thomson called Broken Branches a “powerful, bold, and beautiful […] - [Connections](https://siblingabuse.ca/connections/): Connection With sibling abuse, as with other forms of trauma and abuse, we can lose connection … to others and to ourselves. When those who are supposed to love and protect us are not doing so, we learn ways to isolate ourselves, to keep others away – often with anger or shutting down. And when we learn to shut down parts of ourselves in order to survive, we lose our connection to our whole Self. Facebook Twitter Youtube At times, many trauma survivors feel unsafe, isolated, alone, unworthy, or unrooted, at least for periods of time. So later in life, […] - [Messages & Comments](https://siblingabuse.ca/messages/): Messages – Comments Do you have a comment, or any thoughts you’d like to share? In the spirit of building community, we want to hear from you. Please send us a message/comment.  Below are some questions you may use as a guide. All questions are optional. Fill out the form below or email us, stating your wish to post on the Message Board. Contact@siblingabuse.ca. PLEASE NOTE: Messages/comments will not post immediately; they will be read and, if necessary, edited before posting.  THERE IS NO RECORD OF IDENTIFICATION OR CONTACT INFORMATION, so you must include your email address if you wish […] - [Resources](https://siblingabuse.ca/resources/): Resources Sibling Abuse Resources Here you’ll find a range of information to read, listen to,  and watch: organizations, interviews, podcasts, articles and books.  A list of Personal Supports can be found at the end. Online Sibling Aggression and Abuse Research and Advocacy Initiative (SAARA) An initiative of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire, this team is committed to research, education, advocacy, raising awareness, and providing training. You’ll find handouts, bulletins, publications and more. An amazing resource for everyone interested in the issue, from researchers to helpers, parents, adult survivors, educators, the media and the […] - [About Us](https://siblingabuse.ca/about/): About SiblingAbuse.ca See it. Name it. Change it. SiblingAbuse.ca is a project dedicated to creating awareness of sibling abuse, building community for those directly affected by sibling abuse, and providing information to those who wish to learn more about it. With the website, we will start with information, links to resources, a blog and a message board. As we gain interest, we will also gather and share personal stories and experiences on our Stories page which will, in turn, further provide material for the blog and upcoming projects.    Just naming Sibling Abuse is a vital starting point – silence […] - [What Is Sibling Abuse?](https://siblingabuse.ca/what-is-sibling-abuse-1/): What Is Sibling Abuse? … and why aren’t we talking about it? This page is where you can find information, definitions and answers to questions you may have about Sibling Abuse. Click on the headings and circles below to learn more. Content warning: The content on this page directly addresses various types of abuse, and may be triggering to some readers. Please take care of yourself. What is Sibling Abuse? Emotional Abuse Physical Abuse Sexual Abuse Severity Sibling Rivalry vs. Abuse Markers of Sibling Abuse How Common is it? What is the Impact? Why Does it Happen? Why Aren’t We […] - [Home](https://siblingabuse.ca/): Shining a Light on Sibling Abuse “Kids will be kids.” “What brothers and sisters don’t fight?!” “Ignore them. They’ll figure it out on their own.” “It’s just normal sibling rivalry.” Sound familiar? We’ve all heard these words when we see sisters and brothers ‘fighting’. But what’s really going on may be more than just sibling rivalry … It may be sibling abuse. Welcome to SiblingAbuse.cawhere we have two main goals: First, we are on a mission to eradicate violence and abuse between siblings. To do that, we need to name it, understand what it is and is not, recognize the […] - [Contact Us](https://siblingabuse.ca/contact-us/): Contact Us Please fill out the form below to contact us. - [Podcasts](https://siblingabuse.ca/stories/podcast/): PODCASTS: Guest Interviews and Coming Soon Guest Interviews Please have a listen to podcasts in which I’ve had the privilege to be interviewed. Check out Blog 3 to learn about the amazing podcast hosts (and the challenges to sharing these!)                 What Would Dr. Meyers Do? with Dr. Amy Meyers Look for Episodes 105 & 106 on Spotify, and all the platforms.     More Than “Sibling Rivalry”: Understanding and Addressing Sibling Abuse with Dr. Linda Baker From Little Eyes, Little Ears: Centering Children & Youth in GBV Work, a podcast series from […] - [Blog](https://siblingabuse.ca/stories/blog/): Blog I have a lot to say about sibling abuse.  I look forward to sharing thoughts, research, conversations, stories I have heard, wise words and healing practices I have learned through my personal journey … and perhaps yours! Please connect with us – I may want to share and comment on that as well! Messages Stories Podcast - [Stories](https://siblingabuse.ca/stories/): Stories I believe deeply in the transformation and healing that comes from sharing our stories. It is how we can understand who we are, how we can share our truth. Stories connect us. It is through stories that we come to understand that we are not very different from one another. Share Your Story Read the Stories As a sibling abuse survivor, actor, writer, counsellor, and teacher, I am committed to the power of stories … listening, gathering, writing, and sharing them. A goal of this website is to be a ‘gathering place’ for stories of sibling abuse … my […] [comment]: # (Generated by Hostinger Tools Plugin)